9 Lives | Chapter 8 | Part Three | What the Research Shows

This article is part of a weekly series adapted from our latest book, "The 9 Lives of Woman" by Christine Marie Mason

Chapter 8: Part Three

What the Research Shows

Aileen’s experience, described in this section, reflect findings from a growing body of research on aging, sexuality, and the human need for intimacy. Despite persistent cultural myths that suggest women’s sexuality declines or becomes irrelevant after menopause, scientific studies indicate that many women continue to experience desire, pleasure, and fulfilling intimacy well into their later years.

• Sexuality Does Not Disappear with Age: A study published in The New England Journal of Medicine (Lindau et al., 2007) found that among sexually active women aged 65-74, nearly 50% reported having sex at least a few times a month. The study also revealed that while sexual activity may decrease with age due to factors such as loss of a partner or health issues, interest in intimacy and pleasure often remains high.

• Sensuality and Well-being Are Linked: Research in The Journal of Sex Research (2016) highlights how sensuality—engagement with touch, physical closeness, and erotic stimulation—is strongly associated with overall well-being in older adults. Studies suggest that people who maintain an active sensual and sexual life report better mental health, improved self-esteem, and even stronger immune function.

• The Role of Touch and Connection: Neuroscience supports Aileen’s emphasis on touch and intimacy. Research on oxytocin, sometimes called the "love hormone," shows that physical affection—whether through sex, cuddling, or even self-touch—helps regulate stress and promotes emotional resilience (Current Opinion in Psychiatry, 2012). Touch stimulates the vagus nerve, reducing cortisol (the stress hormone) and increasing feelings of connection and relaxation.

• Sexual and Romantic Relationships in Later Life: Studies have also examined romantic and sexual partnerships in aging populations. A report in The Journals of Gerontology (2020) found that older adults who maintain romantic relationships—even non-traditional ones, like Aileen’s arrangement with Rob—experience higher levels of life satisfaction and lower levels of loneliness than those who withdraw from intimacy altogether. Flexible, companionship-based relationships can be deeply fulfilling and may not conform to traditional marriage models.

• The Importance of Body Image and Self-Acceptance: Aileen’s embrace of sensuality in everyday life mirrors findings from The International Journal of Aging and Human Development (2019), which suggests that women who maintain positive body image and self-care routines—such as wearing beautiful fabrics, engaging in self-touch, and staying active—tend to have better sexual satisfaction. Confidence and acceptance of one’s aging body are key factors in continued intimacy.

Pleasure is lifelong, sensuality is vital, and intimacy is as much about self-connection as it is about relationships with others. The science is clear—embracing sensuality and sexuality at any age leads to a more vibrant, connected, and fulfilling life.