One thing I learned while developing Rosebud Woman is that half of all women (not just menopausal, perimenopausal or postmenopausal, but all woman), suffer from an intermittent lack of a vaginal lubrication. For 17% of all women, lack of moisture is a constant problem, and it makes it difficult to enjoy sex. If you're not one of these women you can stop reading now, and I will happily see you in next week's newsletter. But if you ARE (or you know someone who has this concern), please allow me to share some of the information I've picked up. Because great sex and good orgasms are a beautiful part of being alive in a human body!
There are normal lifecycle driven hormonal reasons for lack of lubrication. There are also hormonal disruptions that are culturally induced: high levels of stress and anxiety can elevate cortisol and depress desire. Anxiety, busyness and trauma are all factors that make it difficult for some women to relax—and relaxation is a precondition for true arousal and great orgasms. Big lifestyle shifts that would allow life to be easy: doing less, playing more, meditating, exercise, foreplay would go a long way to staying juicy! In the meantime, here are a few simple changes you can make to help with moisture that don't take major shifts.
First, don't succumb to the girl-child pubic hair look. The pornification of sexuality has made going bare fashionable. Pubic hair is there for a reason: it helps balance the vaginome, keep infections out, and helps the vagina retain moisture. Trim if you must, but keep the labia and the opening to the vagina protected.
Bring blood flow into the hips. Vulvar and vaginal tissues require blood flow to get wet. This is in part a mechanical, not a chemical, process. Blood flow puts pressure on subcutaneous liquid, and pushes it to the surface. So get this going by doing dynamic hip movements. These might include gentle squats, or more dynamic yoga squats (search: Malasana on Google for tips). Self-massage with oils and creams can also help stimulate pelvic blood flow.
Don’t forget to hydrate! The vagina is part of the body. Drink more water, eat water-rich foods like veggies and fruit, and drink less alcohol and caffeine.
Another tip? Take the time to find out if your prescriptions are adding to the situation. Many pharmaceuticals—including statins, blood pressure medications, antidepressants, and antipsychotics, among others—can cause sexual dysfunction in both women and men.
These bodies are genius! They don't want to be aroused when stressed out or unsafe, unhealthy, dehydrated, or undernourished. Please tell the women you know and love about our Honor Regenerating Balm—which uses topical plant based ingredients to help women replenish and moisturize intimate skin—and our Arouse Stimulating Serum, whose plants bring blood flow to those areas. Dive into the resources that our Ambassadors have made available on their own websites! Give yourself the gift of fully embodied self care, sensuality and sexuality, with no shame and full joy.