Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Sex Therapist

January 29, 2025

Interviewing a potential therapist is an important step in finding someone who aligns with your needs and values. Here’s a comprehensive list of questions you can ask to evaluate whether a therapist is the right fit for you, specifically for addressing sexual health, intimacy, or relationship concerns:

Background and Credentials

What are your credentials, licenses, and certifications?

(For example: Are you certified by AASECT or another reputable organization?)

How long have you been practicing, and how much of your practice focuses on sex therapy?
What is your training or specialization in sexual health or intimacy issues?
Do you have experience working with clients with concerns similar to mine?
Are you familiar with or open to [specific lifestyle, sexual orientation, or relationship model, e.g., polyamory, LGBTQ+, BDSM]?

Approach and Philosophy

How would you describe your approach to sex therapy?

(For example: Is it somatic, cognitive-behavioral, psychodynamic, holistic, etc.?)

What is your perspective on the role of sexuality in overall well-being?
How do you address cultural or religious influences on sexuality?
Do you incorporate mindfulness, spirituality, or other non-traditional methods into your practice?
How do you handle situations where partners have differing levels of desire or compatibility?

Process and Structure

What does a typical session look like?
Do you give clients homework or exercises to practice between sessions?
How do you measure progress in therapy?
Do you work with individuals, couples, or groups, and which would you recommend for my situation?
If working with a couple, how do you balance the needs of both partners?

Comfort and Boundaries

How do you create a safe and nonjudgmental space for discussing sensitive topics?
What are your boundaries around physical contact in therapy?
Are you comfortable discussing [specific topic or concern you want to address]?
How do you handle situations where a client feels discomfort or resistance?
What is your policy if I feel we’re not a good fit?

Fees, Accessibility, and Logistics

What are your fees, and do you accept insurance?
Do you offer sliding-scale fees or payment plans?
Do you provide virtual therapy sessions, and are there any limitations with that format?
What is your cancellation or rescheduling policy?
Are there any additional costs for materials or resources you may recommend?

Specialized Concerns

What experience do you have in working with trauma survivors, if applicable to me?
How do you approach issues related to medical conditions affecting sexuality, such as hormonal imbalances or chronic pain?
Do you collaborate with other professionals, such as doctors or pelvic floor therapists, when needed?
How do you handle discussions around sexual orientation, gender identity, or non-conventional relationship structures?
What is your approach to integrating cultural or societal perspectives on sexuality into therapy?

Self-Reflection

Why did you choose to specialize in sex therapy?
What do you find most rewarding about your work?
How do you continue your education in this field?
Do you seek supervision or peer consultation for complex cases?
How do you ensure your own biases or beliefs don’t influence your work with clients?

Red Flags to Watch For

While interviewing, pay attention to:

Evasiveness or lack of clear answers.
Judgmental or dismissive attitudes.
A lack of cultural competence or unwillingness to learn.
Discomfort with topics you consider important.
Over-promising quick results or guarantees of success.

Wrap-Up Questions

What questions do you have for me?
How soon can we start, and how often would you recommend sessions?
What can I do to prepare for our sessions?

These questions can help you ensure alignment with a therapist who meets your needs, aligns with your values, and provides a safe space for your growth and healing.